What is the adoptive family allowed to know about me?
It is important that the adoptive family know as much about your genetic background, drug and alcohol history, and health as possible. Every agency is required to obtain a Health and Genetic History which will be given to the adoptive family. Although some of the information may be personal and difficult to discuss, it is important not only to the adoptive family but to your child. Genetic issues such as cancer may have a very strong genetic link that should be addressed by your child's pediatrician as he or she grows older. Other issues, i.e., alcohol, drug and tobacco consumption may be essential to the health of your child. This information is kept confidential between the agency, you and your adoptive parents. It is never given to your parents or any law enforcement agency. It is used solely for the purpose of helping your child both now and in the future. Information such as your name and where you live is kept only in agency records unless YOU request that it be given to the adoptive parents or eventually your child. You will make this decision as you determine the level of openness you want to have with your adoptive family. You may choose to write letters, give gifts or pictures or even to design a scrap book (called a Life Book) so that your child will have a clearer picture of you, your family, and the love that you feel for him/her.
Does the agency ever deal with couples who are out of Texas, or must they live in the state where the agency is?
Child Placement Center works with families in the continental United States (excluding the state of New York.) The agency tries to place each child in Texas, if possible. Some children, however, have special needs that require the agency to find parents from all over the United States who can take care of those needs. Remember, CPC, will take care of your child no matter what the outcome of your pregnancy may be. Our special needs program has found homes for children with Down Syndrome, mental retardation, cerebral palsy and other habilitating problems.
Will my child be able to get information about me if she or he desires?
CPC will ask that you sign an open preference sheet which will address if you do or do not wish to be found. CPC relies heavily on this document in deciding whether to notify you of your child's request. It is important that you keep the agency informed of your permanent or new address and that you inform CPC of any change in your feelings. In addition, the State of Texas has an adoption registry which will also provide information to your child if she or he seeks to find you when they are 18 years old or older.
Legally your child may also obtain a "de-identified" copy of their record at age 18. Although this copy does not give your name and address, the agency will attempt to find you if you have made your wishes known.
What information, if any, do you need from the biological father?
The agency seeks to obtain the same information from the biological father that you have provided on yourself. Sometimes this is difficult to do. However, this background information is very important to the future of your child. You may want to assist your adoption worker in obtaining the information or you may feel more comfortable in letting the worker obtain the information herself depending on the type of relationship you presently have with the birth father.
How soon after the baby is born can she or he be placed in his/her new home?
Although this is determined on a case-to-case basis, the agency seeks to place the baby in an adoptive home immediately, if possible. Much of this is determined by the cooperation of the biological father.
May I write the adoptive parents a letter explaining to them the reasons for placing my child for adoption, and will I have the assurance they will receive it and read it?
You are greatly encouraged to write this letter and any other during your lifetime. Initially the agency will open the letter and reseal it to protect your location. As time progresses, you and the adoptive parent may MUTUALLY agree to give each other your address so that the correspondence does not have to go through the agency.
Will they receive it and read it? If you choose an adoptive family that says they wish to have this information, yes, they will definitely receive it. Will they read it? Of course! Remember that much of this is in your hands during your decision making process.
What is an open adoption?
Open adoption has varying degrees of openness according to the mutual agreement between the birth parent(s) and the adoptive parent(s). That agreement may include the exchange of information through the agency only or a mutual agreement to have access directly with each other. The amount of openness must be agreed upon by both parties. Usually that agreement is made when you select an adoptive family.
How much can I be involved in choosing the couple for my child?
You may be as involved or uninvolved as you wish to be. For example, you may review information on several couples to select a family that you feel comfortable with, review photo albums, have verbal information about them, have phone conversations or perhaps have a meeting with them. OR you may choose to let the agency select a family for you.
Will I have to go to court?
Your adoption worker and the agency attorney will go to court and advocate on your behalf. Therefore you will not be required to attend court.
Will I be able to see my baby in the hospital?
Yes, and the agency very much encourages you to do so. You may take pictures, room in, breast feed and make all decisions for your child until you sign the papers. Seeing your child after this time is allowed if you have made arrangements with your adoption worker.
On the other hand, you may choose to have a room that is not located on the maternity wing and you may choose not to have contact with your child. (Please notify your doctor, hospital social worker, nurses, and agency staff about your desire to do so.)
Can I name my baby and will the adoptive parents keep the name I pick?
You are encouraged to name your child and should do so on the birth certificate if you so desire. The adoptive family is given these names and may use all or part of the name you choose on the final birth certificate. The original birth certificate is sealed when the adoption is final and a new birth certificate is created with the adoptive parents' name as the parents of the child, as well as the adoptive name of the child at that point.
What would an adoption agency do for me?
A licensed TEXAS agency provides counseling and support, before, during and after placement of your child into a home. They should take care of all medical expenses and travel to the hospital, doctor and the office. They should explain all the adoption processes to you, provide you legal services, and should make sure you have access to them 24 hours a day. Further, a licensed agency may be able to provide such things as maternity clothes, food, and living expenses.
Making an adoption plan is an important, yet emotional decision and we truly understand what you are encountering at this difficult time in your life. Our caring and supportive adoption workers are available to provide you with the best yet most personalized and confidential counseling free of charge.
Educating You on Adoption
You do have choices and options and you will want to think about them carefully. CPC has an adoption worker available that can help you better explore your options. More women are choosing adoption as a loving plan and positive solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Adoption is the process of relinquishing your parental rights to your child and placing your child with a family of your choice. You have the option to select the type of adoption you feel is best for you and your child.
Select From Waiting Families
You have the opportunity to select the adoptive family from our approved adoptive family profiles. You will be ale to view their profile book and learn more about them as well as their adoption preferences. Each family that is represented by CPC has been extensively screened to prove that they are qualified and capable of providing a home and an environment that is loving, stable and safe for your child. You can be assured that no matter which family you choose, your decision is a loving decision and your child is being placed with a family that will care for and love your child. Perhaps if the decision is too difficult, Child Placement Center can assist you in Choosing the best family for your child. Just know you have options and we are here to assist you.
Your Post Adoptive Needs
Child Placement Center provides post placement counseling and mediated correspondence with your child and their adoptive family. We offer families the ability to maintain a relationship through the agency. Post adoption counseling for birth parents is provided at no cost by an agency licensed professional counselor, this is available during and after your adoption, at no charge.
Financial Support Available
Considering adoption? We can help with pregnancy related expenses to include, housing, medical and materntiy expenses.
This Is My Testimony.....
Hi my name is Ashley and I’m a birth mother. I chose adoption for my baby not for me, but for my child’s best interest. I loved her enough to set aside my needs for her and after much exploration and praying, it became evident that I could be that very person to impact a couple who cannot have children in a very special way.
Although this is one of the biggest decisions I have and will ever have to make, I know in my heart that I made the most loving one could make for their child. I feel honored and blessed to know that my daughter’s adoptive parents love her unconditionally. They are the answer to my prayers and I will be grateful for them.
If you are considering adoption, remember that adoption is a loving option! It is a selfless act and not an act of selfishness!